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December 22, 2007

Relationship and Ego

Ego ..wat ego?..bullshit..hey dude, chill man..wat the heck?? cool it man..we are frnds..
Well , ppl wid cool attitude and light head will behave something like above conversation .But As we grow ..we become complicated,we start understanding  hidden meanings of talks which otherwise seems casual and funny.Lots of communication 2day is meant to be done in a way so as to “indicate” not “tell” wat the other person want/desire from you.
Slowly and steadily everyone understands the rule of the game “The unasked Question.The untold answer”.It’s a passive game played here..

You get this feeling like why shud I? why only me? Why always me?

Am talking about Ego which is utterly not in the sense as Ayn Rand describes it for his character Howard Roak.
My idea of Ego is pretty wild.Its the most evil nature of a human being, more dangerous than jealousy.It kills,destroys and the pain caused by it ,is acceptable to us if we signed a contract and we sing a song deep inside our heart

“The roof,the roof..the roof  is on fire..
We don’t need no water …let the mothaF**** burn..
Burn Motha F*****..burnnnnnnnnnnnn..

Well we have that monstor singing for us.. who appears from nowhere..that fucking EGO.
Why should I be the first one to bow my head.That too to a lady ? I donno but Men’s Ego should never be challenged by a lady..I understand that the statement is not fair as far as gender equality is considered.Still ,You better experience it and you wil fry like a fish in hot oil pan in that Ego War.

Ego-fights between opposite sexes can go pretty wild ..but the one who realizes his mistake first should make the move before the relationship deteriorates further.Still if the other person doesn’t accept the apology  triggers/challenges  the ego which will stand the blow of 10 thousand missiles.
If their exist love between 2 person in a relationship then Ego will find it difficult to overcome the power of love.Communicate and communicate more.We are not Dumb creatures..we can speak some common languages..There should not be any space for any misunderstandings.

 I remember a movie starring Amitabh and Jaya Bacchan named Abhimaan (1973) dedicated to this subject and doing full justice .Thankfully am outta it.
I feel relaxed..she called me up and now i feel like it was a war fought over no reason.I have my Ego under control but i do have it.But I can nail on it when its against friendship,closed ones.I always give myself a second chance. 🙂


  1. Good post, again.. My experience says some men get intimidated by women who assert themselves.. But then, like u’ve rightly pointed out COMMUNICATE & COMMUNICATE MORE. I’m all for it. But wud u do the same for someone who doesnt mean anything to u????? I mean he/she cud be ur neighbour, ur colleague, just an acquaintance…..

    Comment by Sam — December 23, 2007 @ 5:12 am

  2. forget the ego man, whos the babe who called up huh?

    Comment by assemkhan — December 24, 2007 @ 5:00 am

  3. Hi sam..
    Maybe your are right..if the person is not the one who matter’s me a lot..maybe i will
    just move on wid my ego..But somewhere a feeling will be there as to why things got
    worsened betwn us..But frankly again..i will forget the past and give a second chance if a positive move is made from that person.

    dude,Wats u r take on the same question ?

    Comment by nitin — December 24, 2007 @ 7:59 am

  4. Asseem..

    Ego is forgotten man..and keep wondering about the babe..Its a top secret!!! 🙂

    Comment by nitin — December 24, 2007 @ 8:01 am

  5. I wudnt wait for that person to make a move. i’ll initiate things. if that other person doesnt respond, his/her loss totally, ;-)!!!
    On a serious note, I’d make the first move (irrespective of whether its my mistake or not) coz i firmly believe in this “A lotta ppl regret doing something, but ppl regret NOT doing something a lot more”..

    Comment by Sam — December 24, 2007 @ 8:14 am

  6. ego comes in when you start thinking, “what am i gaining out of this relationship?”
    but ego dissolves when you ask, “what am i giving to this relationship?”
    only mutual trust and a positive reciprocal regard can take a relationship forward and allow the two persons to grow in it.
    the more you cling to it with insecurity, more you suffocate the other person. so allow space to to breath.

    Comment by latha vidyaranya — December 29, 2007 @ 7:24 pm

  7. @nitin : liked the post, a similar one on ego coming up soon on my blog. But that’s not about male ego… that’s about biker’s ego 🙂

    @latha : totally agree with what you’ve said.

    Comment by Aalok Pandit — December 30, 2007 @ 5:58 pm

  8. “The nice thing about egotists is that they don’t talk about other people”

    Comment by Xylene — December 31, 2007 @ 11:26 am

  9. @Alok.

    This is something new, “biker’s ego” want Harley for yourself? Drive your scooter safely man.. 🙂

    Nice thought..

    For me.. the ego question is only..”Why me first “which is trigerred by anger..
    “what am i gaining out of this relationship?” This question wont trigger my ego..I wud be selfish if ask this to myself..rather being bound by ego..

    Comment by nitin — January 2, 2008 @ 6:39 am

  10. relationship mein nahi padna yaar abhi mujhe…bas daru maar ke filosophy jhaadne ka mann kar raha hain….just like what u did on 30th dec, 2007 night 😉 ..hahahaha…lol

    Comment by Anoop — January 2, 2008 @ 6:45 am

  11. to maaro na filosopy.. am eager to knw hear.. Ek bevda Indian in US ka filosopy

    Comment by nitin — January 2, 2008 @ 6:49 am

  12. aaj tum log ka recording suna…mazaa aa gaya

    Comment by Anoop — January 2, 2008 @ 7:06 am

  13. @nitin:
    I can’t believe you haven’t heard about biker’s ego!
    It seems we’ve been out of touch for a long long time. My scooter has been standing since Jan 2006! I had got myself a Pulsar-180 and a few months back (On my b’day in August) had driven myself to death, met with a major accident and was in a hospital for a week and strict bed-rest for three weeks after that! Haven’t recovered fully yet.

    Comment by Aalok — January 5, 2008 @ 1:41 pm

  14. Correction to my earlier comments:
    had ALMOST driven myself to death 😉

    Comment by Aalok — January 5, 2008 @ 1:43 pm

  15. Aalok.. i knw u r a rash driver..dude..value your life.
    some dose for you..check this out

    Aalok..where’s your blog? i want to check it ..

    Comment by nitin — January 7, 2008 @ 11:10 am

  16. mine is at
    but GLT main blocked hai 😦

    Comment by Aalok — January 10, 2008 @ 10:54 am

  17. Dude… the Biker’s Ego post is finally up at my blog. You might like it 🙂

    Comment by Aalok — January 31, 2008 @ 7:44 am

  18. Check the comment dude..

    Comment by nitin — January 31, 2008 @ 11:36 am

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